Mike – makes no sense to me either

It’s amazing to me to see that arranged marriages have lower rates of divorce and tend to score higher by both partners in level of satisfaction. As I read in one study, the participants basically said that because they had no choice at first, they started off trying to get to know each other and make things work with that person and love that person for who they are. This is in sharp contrast to the comments that were recieved by the more “modern” relationship studies that seemed to be along the lines of having an idea of what their ideal mate is and searching for someone to fit that mold and then spending the rest of their time searching for their partner to fit that perfect vision.

I’m not about to draw any conclusions or say one way or the other is right, but I have found that in most cases of cheating, and this card exemplifies it, it seems like the cheater is looking/searching for something and instead of trying to find it with their partner, they go elsewhwere. In my own opinion, there are very few things that are quite as bad as this. Not only are they violating the trust and communication that a relationship is based on, but they are making a fool of their partner by sneaking around behind their back with someone else. The cheater is in effect saying you cannot make me as happy as this person can, and instead of being honest with you out of respect and love and maybe coming to a mutual agreement or affecting a change in our relationship. Instead, I am going to make a fool of you and hope I get away with it.

I have always said that your partner should always be treated with as much respect as you would treat your best friend if not more so. If a person wouldn’t play games with their best friend, I cannot understand what makes them feel it is ok to do it with their partner?

On top of that, this card is from someone who is involved with someone in a commited relationship. I cannot help but wonder that if this person is willing to cheat on their partner, what makes them think it will be any different with them? More often then not, when a person starts falling for the grass is greener syndrome, all they end up doing is jumping from one person to another, never to find whatever it is they are looking for. All because they are unwilling to stop looking and start enjoying and loving.

MSNBC interviews Cathy Gallagher about her new line of greeting cards. They are titled the “Secret Lover Collection”

I hope to God every guy who sends one of these gets caught. Gallagher says she is not “an advocate for this lifestyle” but is si…

I hope the creator, Ms. Gallagher (surely not Mrs.), is a genuine hard-eyed cynic. That seems less repugnant than a morally sideways “love conquers all” romantic.

Sometimes you hear about something that truly symbolizes the slow death of our civilization. I had always thought we would go out with a bang, but it would seem it may be more of a case of slow suicide.

Now if I found Darling Husband sending something like this to someone else (or if he found me sending it), there would certainly be hell to pay…

I am… profoundly disgusted

– R’cat

- Then again in the end “players” always get what they deserve – solitude -:shock:

Oh, wait…