This, however, doesn’t let men off the hook completely. To all the single gents out there who are just meeting up for the first time with a gal you’re interested in: Treat your body just like you would your car: Don’t let just anyone take it for a spin. You’ll respect yourself – and her – more, in the morning.

Yup. Make sure you get her to completely read your owner’s manual and understand all the quirks of the vehicle before you let her put her hand on your shifter. .

Better yet, don’t give her the keys until she buys the car.

I would also like to agree with the majority of all over posters on the side of temperance. Man was created to be monogamous, we are not rabbits, as GWR says. Monogamy is found in all higher evolved creatures, Killer whales, Eagles, Humans. All creatures of admiration, not disdain. If man were to place honor above all base desires, celebacy is acheivable, and has it’s own rewards. As I have said before, virginity is the only gift you can give once, why waste it on someone who doesn’t really care about you. People who believe that promiscuity has it’s own advantages, are usually people who are emotionally devoid, and don’t understand the joys of being in real love. Look at Sis’ picture, look into her eyes, and tell me that you would enjoy the pain in her eyes when you tell her she is nothing more than a one night stand. Sorry, but that is more than I as a man could take. /Hugs Dear Sis.

People who believe that promiscuity is a good thing, also scratch their heads at teen suicide, and the divorce rate. No matter what you believe, You can never seperate emotions from the act of making love. You might think so, but eventually your emotions will catch up to you, and at that time there will be the devil to pay. Don’t think so, then why do we have so many people taking mood altering drugs in this society??? – Lorica

Quite the liberal concept for an otherwise conservative guy huh? I`ll loan my car to Angelina Jolie any time.

/shiver I wouldn’t let Angelina Jolie put gas in my car, let alone check the tires. That woman scares me. In this world of STD’s that kill, your liberal concept is not very bright. – Lorica

I think it’d be a good idea for you to start arguing for or against the merits of what I said in my original post, because that’s why I started this thread, not for you to personally go after everyone in it rather than making substantive arguments one way or the other.

I think Dunk already did an excellent job. I just didn’t see the need for
Dunk without perspective
and
building a relationship that it seems you know nothing about Dunk

Humans are sexual creatures.

So are rabbits, chickens, and elephant seals. But one of the great things that separates man from animals is self-control. Now I understand that modern marketing campaigns make it difficult to avoid falling into the ‘get-it-now’ trap, but there are certain areas where it’s important to do so, and this is one of them. Yielding to the urge for instant gratification is a sign of immaturity.

In my opinion, most singles become involved in short relationships rather than one night stands. It`s all right to move on after a few weeks or months if a strong connection isn`t present….The only sluts are those who don`t respect their sex partners.

If I understand you right, you’re saying a “relationship” of, say, two weeks is different from a one-night stand. A few weeks is hardly enough time to call anything a “relationship” – it’s not possible to know someone well enough in that time – so what you’re describing basically is jumping into bed with the same person for a couple of weeks and then moving on if the sex isn’t good enough after two or three tumbles. That’s not any different from a one-night stand, sorry. And please tell us how that behavior is respectful. Part of true respect is valuing the other person more than your own lust.

I noticed that while you have a theory about what is psychologically debilitating, you don’t seem to have considered the psychological effects on the partners one would be shuttling in and out, not to mention the medical risks of the promiscuous lifestyle.

A final thought: presumably, someone who lives this lifestyle would be married someday. That should entail something special, something more than the series of liaisons you’ve described. But after handing it out so readily, so often, what’s left to give the spouse that you haven’t given elsewhere?

An interesting topic…please consider what ST has said. It’s meant to be constructive, not as a rap on you.

I don’t think that Sister Toldjah spends a lot of time reading Pandagon, and I’m guessing that Amanda Marcotte doesn’t spend much time checking out Sis’ site, either. They happened to both post long essays on casual sex at abo…

Would you care to point out where Dunk did that, before you started insulting him?

He didn’t accuse Dunk of doing that. He accused YOU of doing that.

Remember this, Neil: Laura’s got a lot more patience in dealing with how you act on the forum than I will here. I think it’d be a good idea for you to start arguing for or against the merits of what I said in my original post, because that’s why I started this thread, not for you to personally go after everyone in it rather than making substantive arguments one way or the other.

Do you actually read these comments before opening up a big can of ad hominen, Neil?

I know Neil from the same forum I post with Dunk at and for him to be acting as Dunk’s savior on this blog is a joke, because at the forum he’s usually the one going ad hominem and insulting Dunk.

Neil knows Dunk doesn’t need any help defending himself. His main beef is what people are saying about sexual promiscuity and he’s using ‘defending Dunk’ as a smokescreen for taking people to task whose opinions he doesn’t like. Not only that, but I look for him to soon insert some type of comment that will completely take this thread off topic, one that he probably doesn’t even believe in but will post just to get a rise out of everyone else. That’s another Neil tactic: post something provacactive that you really don’t believe in, just to get everyone going. My advice is just to ignore it. That’s what I do at the forum.

I just love the “if it feels good do it” mentality that would erase whatever differences there are between humans and animals.

Hey, food tastes GOOD. Let’s eat everything we want to. But gluttony leads to obesity and health problems.

Hey, sex feels GOOD, let’s screw ourselves silly. But promiscuous sex leads to sexually transmitted diseases, cervical cancers, and a cheapening of the intimate bond between men and women that makes both devalue the other and leads (or stems from) problems achieving true intimacy and emotional attachment with another person. But hey, it feels GOOD.

Instead of attempting to guide and encourage the human race to live up to standards of behavior more advanced than a dog in heat, liberals again want to encourage animalistic behavior and think that’s good.

Maybe… But is it maybe that the people who disagree with me are making false accusations, attacking and inserting false arguments (never stated by myself) as you did?

Would you care to point out where Dunk did that, before you started insulting him?

errrrr yes, Promiscuity is baaaaad.

That is the point here.

You wrote, “I also believe you nearly always insult people who disagree with you”

Maybe… But is it maybe that the people who disagree with me are making false accusations, attacking and inserting false arguments (never stated by myself) as you did?

If you feel insulted about the fact that I pointed out that you inserted an argument that I never stated, or about the fact that I pointed out your reading comprehension wasn’t up to par – I’m sorry and I hope you don’t do it again.

Oh, strike that – I’m sure you’ll claim that your insulting post was not actually insulting.

I also believe you nearly always insult people who disagree with you.