So I’m still in the Bay Area, and still single. LOL

But I do have a date this weekend, so wish me luck!

By far, the best places for single men are the large cities and metro areas of the East Coast and Midwest. The extreme is greater New York, where single women outnumber single men by more than 210,000. In the Philadelphia area and greater Washington, D.C., single women outnumber single men by 50,000. I met my wife outside Detroit, where the odds were greatly stacked in my favor – single women outnumber single men by some 20,000 there.

I made the mistake of rushing into a bad marriage when I was young, and followed that up with an ill-fated relationship or two coming off the divorce. Finally I decided “to hell with this” and wised up enough to just let things ride. A couple of years later I met the perfect woman for me, at a hockey game of all places, and 12 years later we’re still together.

And I didn’t even find out she was a conservative until a month or so along. Sometimes it just all falls into place. You’ll do fine – hang in there, my friend.

When I asked to speak with him, the receptionist who was screening calls asked me, “Is this his wife?”

Forgot to comment on this, this is the kind of despicable behavior that too many men do that taints the pool for us all. After encountering this kind of unethical, immoral, selfish lout too often, women are justifiably hesitant about men and it just makes it harder for the rest of us honorable men to get past their defenses and get to know them.

It’s good you dodged that bullet ST.

Glad you figured it out before he broke your heart.

His poor wife.

I have dated different people in the day, and mostly I never knew much about their politics, with a couple of exceptions. I dated a radical feminist type, who’s hypocrisy finally got the better of me and we parted company with many hard feelings. I also dated a liberal, Yankee, artistic type (me being a Southern, conservative, scientific type). The miscommunication caused by our different backgrounds were tough at times, we would often talk past each other as our backgrounds were just too dissimilar, made it hard to communicate. We are still friends though, it was just hard to have a more serious relationship, though we settled into become good friends

Thankfully I no longer have to date. Often when my wife and I are watching TV or something, a dating or relationship story or such will come on, and we’ll look at each other and both say “Don’t ever make me have to date again” at the same time.

My feelings haven’t changed, it seems to me to be a big waste of time to date a liberal gal. The passion and interaction of being with someone who is opposite of you can be fun, but after awhile it can be harmful too. Just like this woman would get mad at me, because of something Bush or Cheney did. I would ask her how is it my fault, and her answer…. You voted for him. Okayyyyyyy!!!

I am about to turn 45 now and I am thinking unless the good Lord takes a rib and makes a woman, OR I somehow miracliously find myself in North Carolina I am going to be single for the rest of my life. It is all good no matter how it works out. It is in His hands and I am good with it. – Lorica

By my thirties, I had made a conscious decision not to date any more liberal women. And it wasn’t because they were dim, quite to the contrary I had a lot of fun in good-natured “debates” with some of the sharper ones, and as long as there was some mutual respect it was all good. Or so I thought.

But it impacts too many other things.

Maybe I could write a whole book about this, but to just scratch the surface of it what we need to do is inspect the very foundation of human relationships. Pretend, for the moment, you and I are going to illustrate this, not by dating but by bartering. You have a larger spread of land and you plant corn. I breed cows. I do not have access to corn and you do not have access to milk or beef, and so we start bartering. In this way, we have a symbiotic relationship. Each of us defines our symbiotic relationship through the identity by which we recognize the other.

We can do this one of two ways. We can recognize each other’s weaknesses…

…I say “there is my good friend Sister Toldjah. She needs me because she does not have any cows.” And you can say “that is my new friend Morgan. He needs me because he does not have corn.”

OR, we can recognize each other’s strengths. I think of you as someone who can provide me with corn. You think of me as someone who can provide you with milk and beef.

Over the short term, it seems like we have a more durable friendship when we recognize each other’s weaknesses. It has the appearance of being altruistic in both directions. But the altruism is phony. Our friendship originates with pure pragmatism, regardless of how we choose to recognize it. The compassion we have for each other grows from that.

But when we become known to each other because of our strengths, which is how conservatives recognize their relationships and friendships — we allow for personal growth. I do not have to feel threatened if you buy a cow. You do not have to feel threatened if I start growing corn.

And looking back on my dating relationships with liberal women, I notice this is how they all came to an end. I would naturally want to overcome some limitation, maybe learn how to do something…suddenly there’d be all this insecurity and I didn’t understand until years later how it came about.

I should add that, with no exceptions, every single liberal woman I stopped dating was, according to her, the “only” woman who would ever put up with me. They all turned out to be wrong. ++grin++