Give it up for US Olympian @LoloJones, who won’t “give it up” until she’s married

Unfortunately, you don’t hear stories like this one very often:

As grueling as Olympic qualifying can be for an athlete, American hurdler Lolo Jones says that pales in comparison to another challenge she faces daily.

Jones is a 29-year-old virgin who is saving herself for marriage. And in an interview with Mary Carillo for HBO’s “Real Sports with Bryant Gumbel,” she discussed just how difficult that path has been.

“I just don’t believe in it.” Jones said. “It’s just a gift I want to give my husband. But please understand this journey has been hard. There’s virgins out there and I want to let them know that it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Harder than training for the Olympics. Harder than graduating from college has been to stay a virgin before marriage. I’ve been tempted, I’ve had plenty of opportunities.”

devout Christian, Jones has previously discussed the central role religion plays in her life from reading the Bible before a race to listening to Christian music. That faith has helped her persevere through a trying childhood in Des Moines, Iowa. Jones’ family was so poor that she had to shoplift frozen dinners.


When asked on Twitter what she’s looking for [in the right man], Jones listed four basic attributes: “single, Christian, non smoker, no kids with any baby mamas, have a job.” But even if she’s feeling pressure as she closes in on her 30th birthday, she’s still able to laugh about it a little.

“I’m one year out from 30,” she said. “So if they’re making a sequel to ‘The 30-Year-Old Virgin,’ I am their candidate. I would love to. I’m a little bit awkward like Steve Carell. I could definitely play that role.”

Of course, outside of everyone gasping at the thought of someone Jones’ age being a virgin in this day and time – what with the pressures of our “progressive” culture being what it is – people are saying, “Oh, Lolo and Tim Tebow should get together.” It would make sense, wouldn’t it, but then again – that assumes there aren’t more men out there who share Jones’ Christian values (whether they’ve remained abstinent or not) who would be interested in dating her with this knowledge in mind.  In her own words, though, it’s difficult because guys don’t want to stick around once they find out her feelings on sex before marriage:

“When I was 22, 24, it was cute,” she said. “But 24 to 29, it’s not cute. You get judged a lot, a lot of guys won’t return your calls after they find out.”

A devout Christian, she told Women’s Health magazine in 2010 that she listens to “a lot of Christian music” to help calm her during training seasons.

Miss Jones, who is actually named Lori, also revealed to the program that she has tried using various online dating sites as well as Twitter in an attempt to seek out a boyfriend.

It was on Twitter earlier this year where she first announced to her almost 55,000 fans that she was a virgin.

She also said on the program that she has grown accustomed to being rejected by men as a result of her beliefs.

She said: “Here’s the two things that happen when you tell a guy you’re a virgin, this is the honest truth. One, you tell them [and they say] “oh ok, I respect that”. But you can already see in their eyes [that they’re thinking] “she’s lying about this and I’ll crack it”.

“So we’ll talk usually one to three months [later], then they’re like “oh shoot, she was serious”. Time for me to exit.”

Um, ladies – how often did this happen to you when you were on the dating scene? Even women who don’t remain abstinent before marriage but who do like to wait a while before the physical nature of a relationship starts have had this happen to them.  It’s very frustrating. I myself have gone on countless dates where the guy has set a “time limit” of sorts on when he expects things to, ahem, “escalate.” They don’t TELL you this after the first or even second date, but by the third or fouth date – or going into the third or fourth week – it become clear that if “things” don’t happen soon, the relationship is over.  There are many men out there who have no idea what they missed out on because they wouldn’t wait another couple of months (or more) before their then-girlfriend decided she was ok with taking things to another level.   Making love (or “sex” – whichever you prefer to call it) is so much more meaningful and fulfilling when a relationship has had a chance to grow and mature beyond the infatuation stage.

Do I sound like a romantic lost cause on this stuff? Yeah probably. But I don’t care. This is how I feel about it.  I’m old-fashioned about this sort of thing, even if I HAVE made my share of mistakes along the way in my own life.

As I’ve written before, it’s probably unrealistic to expect people to remain celibate until marriage – especially nowadays with people marrying much later in life than they used to.   And though it’s a big part of it, it’s not just societal and cultural pressures that make it difficult to wait, but, darn it – sometimes it’s just difficult to resist when the person you are with is so danged sexy/cute/charming/witty/intelligent, etc.  Even if you choose not to remain a virgin until you get married, please at least do NOT jump into bed after the first few dates.  Wait a while. AS LONG AS YOU NEED TO. See if the other person is truly worth giving that side of yourself to.  Sex is such an intimate, personal act, and is ideally a demonstration of ultimate trust in your partner. Your body is not a toy meant to be given freely to get/give a quick “high.” Treat yourself, your body with respect, and eventually you will find someone who will love you forever for both your body AND your mind.


Standing in support of conservative writers personally targeted by #BrettKimberlin

Free Speech ZoneWhen you get into the business of writing about politics and current events, whether you do it for the love of it, the money, or both, you set yourself up for being a target of your political opposition.  It is the nature of the beast. Most of the time  if the opposition isn’t trying to counter your points respectfully,  they’ll just laugh at you and/or call you nasty names over a period of time and move on. Other times they won’t move on, but they won’t carry it any further than just online word wars. But there are also cases where it can escalate way beyond that into territory it never should – where people’s families, homes, and livelihoods are directly targeted, threatened, and negatively impacted by thugs who have absolutely no concept of what “freedom of speech” means, and who believe there are no boundaries/limits whatsoever that they shouldn’t be allowed to cross in trying to “shame” those who they oppose.  Such is the case with Brett Kimberlin, a despicable human being who has waged a disgusting campaign of legal terror and abuse against conservatives who write truthful articles about him and his domestic terrorism past.   The man is vile. Absolutely vile:

Over the past year, Aaron Walker (who blogged as “Aaron Worthing”)PattericoLiberty Chick, and now Stacy McCain have been targeted by convicted Speedway bomber Brett Kimberlin because they dared to mention his criminal past or assisted others who did. The late Andrew Breitbart warned about Kimberlin and company.

I have spoken directly with both Patterico and Aaron about their ongoing battles.

The mainstream press, not just the conservative blogosphere, needs to hear and report their stories.

This is a convoluted, ongoing nightmare that combines abuse of the court system, workplace intimidation, serial invasions of privacy, perjury, and harassment of family members. McCain was forced to move with his family out of his house this week, and has just gotten a small taste of what Aaron and Patterico have been enduring over the past year. Aaron and his wife were fired from their jobs after their employer feared the office would be targeted next. Convicted bomber Kimberlin has filed bogus “peace orders” against Aaron, when it is the Walkers who are the victims, not the perpetrators.

And Patterico’s plight will send chills up your spine when he is ready to tell it.

Institutional inertia, incompetence, and apathy among law enforcement officials on both coasts have exacerbated the victims’ suffering. It has moved far beyond a partisan or political story to a bottomless, Kafka-esque morass. And, via investigative journalist Matthew Vadum, it certainly doesn’t help that “progressive,” left-wing foundations that have funded Kimberlin continue to look the other way.

Ted Frank at Point of Law summed it up: “A scary tale of what can go wrong if one makes the wrong enemy of someone willing to persistently abuse the civil and criminal legal system, and how poorly the legal system protects those victims.”

Please read Michelle’s full post for background on what Walker and others targeted by Kimerblin have gone through.

Regarding the “peace orders”, Patterico points out:

It is beyond the scope of this post to detail every way in which Kimberlin’s peace order is misleading and deceptive. Kimberlin complains that Aaron spoke of purchasing a gun, implying that Aaron’s statement was aggressive — when Aaron actually said he had bought a gun to defend himself. Kimberlin claims that Aaron is responsible for “alerts” coming to his email inbox, suggesting Aaron is emailing him, when in fact the “alerts” Kimberlin is talking about are Google alerts. If you write about this guy on the Internet, he may run to a judge and say you are causing abusive alerts to come to his email.

You might say: what’s the harm in getting a peace order? I have watched this play out in other venues and I know just what Kimberlin is up to. As soon as he gets a “peace order,” he will run back to court the very next time Aaron mentions his name in public. That means that Kimberlin asserts the right to abuse the court process to harass Aaron — and if Aaron tells the world how Kimberlin is abusing the court process, Kimberlin will claim that as a violation of the peace order and try to have Aaron held in contempt of court.

Kimberlin and his crew have relentlessly harassed Aaron, me, and others over the course of the last several months. It is not harassment for us to tell the world what happened to us. It could happen to any of you. His supporters have outed or threatened to out commenters to this very site. They talk about wives, children, and fathers of bloggers and commenters. They ceaselessly abuse everyone they can who speaks the truth about Kimberlin’s past.

Ultimately, this is a free speech issue. Kimberlin and his group of thugs have done their level best to attack everyone in the blogosphere who wrote anything negative about him. Now the blogosphere is starting to wake up, and there are so many critics he can’t possibly intimidate them all.

I can’t wait to hear Patterico’s full story.  In the meantime, would you hit Stacy McCain’s tip jar? He and his family could sure use the assistance right now.  And prayers, too.

Friday, by the way, is “Everybody Blog About Brett Kimberlin” day – Lee Stranahan explains:

Here’s what you do to take part…

  1. Research Brett Kimberlin on your own. Don’t trust secondary sources; look for the orginal articles articles published about him, too.
  2. On Friday, May 25th — write an honest, factually accurate post about what you learned and what your OPINION is. Brett may try and sue you, so be accurate, factual and separate fact from opinion.
  3. The post doesn’t have to be long — ANYTHING helps.
  4. After you post, Tweet, share, whatever — get the post out there.

I know many of you don’t blog, but don’t worry – it really doesn’t have to be a post at all: Tweet about him, write about him on Facebook, post in comment threads and on message boards. I’m using the hashtag #BrettKimberlin at Twitter because no one has indicated otherwise about any other hashtag.   Why do we need to do this? Because not only do we need to support our fellow conservatives, but it is also IMPERATIVE that we show Kimberlin via our words that we will NOT be intimidated by his bull sh*t attempts to squelch free speech.

Are y’all with me?

Which states are doing better in this lousy economy?

**Posted by Phineas

States controlled by Republicans, of course. And, conversely, states controlled by Democrats are showing the least improvement. Jeryl Bier at Speak With Authority provides some telling facts:

  • 9 of the 10 states with the lowest current unemployment rates are under Republican control, including six under complete Republican control, one of which is North Dakota with the lowest rate of 3%
  • 5 of the 10 states with highest current unemployment rates are under Democratic control, and the four worst are all under Democratic control, one of which is Nevada with the highest rate of 12%
  • 8 of the 10 states with the greatest improvement from 2009 to 2012 are under Republican control (and 7 of those are under complete Republican control)
  • 7 of the 10 states with the worst performance from 2009 to 2012 are under Democratic control
  • 10 of 17 states with current unemployment rates greater than the national average are under Democratic control
  • The state with the greatest improvement from 2009 to 2012 (36%) is Michigan, under Republican control
  • The two states with the worst performances from 2009 to 2012, Louisiana and Idaho (the rates actually went up,) are under Republican control, but their current rates are still less than the national rate of 8.2%
  • States under Democratic control saw an average decrease of 7.7% in the rate of unemployment
  • States under Republican control saw an average decrease of 15.3% in the rate of unemployment, virtually double the improvement of states under Democratic control

In other words, to the extent Obama can claim a recovering economy during his term, it’s largely due to states being run by people inclined to do the opposite of what Obama recommends.

I call that a Good Idea(tm), one that should be taken to the national level, no? Republicans should point this out as often as possible between now and November.

Be sure to click through to read Bier’s analysis.

via Tim Groseclose

(Crossposted at Public Secrets)

SF Supervisor consulted Ouija board over Harvey Milk Navy ship naming vote

Via the Associated Press:

SAN FRANCISCO –  A San Francisco supervisor says he consulted a Ouija board before city leaders voted on whether to recommend naming a Navy ship after slain gay rights activist Harvey Milk.

Supervisor John Avalos tells the San Francisco Chronicle ( that he believes he made contact with Milk’s spirit and that Milk spelled out letters indicating: “Good riddance to don’t ask, don’t tell.”

The Board of Supervisors approved the non-binding resolution Tuesday on a 9-2 vote.

More details via the SF Chron:

But Supervisor Christina Olague voted against the legislation, not wanting to link Milk to the military.

“I just do believe that there are more appropriate ways to honor somebody who in their last days of their life was opposed to war,” she said, noting Milk’s public opposition to the Vietnam War. “I also have, my entire life, been against the military-industrial complex.”

Supervisor John Avalos said he sees the merits of the arguments on both sides of the debate. He and his City Hall aides turned to a Ouija board to ask for Milk’s opinion.

We “actually put our hands on the Ouija board and the letters g-o-o-d-r-i-d-d-a-n-c-e-d-a-d-t came out. We asked Harvey, and Harvey gave us these letters: ‘Good riddance don’t ask, don’t tell.’ It was quite clear that Harvey Milk would have been opposed to ‘don’t ask, don’t tell.’ I can honestly say that’s one aspect of this resolution that’s really valid.”

Avalos joined Wiener and seven other supervisors to support the resolution. Only Olague and Supervisor Jane Kim were opposed.

Just another wacky week in California politics ….