(Video) Afterburner: civility

Posted by: Phineas on June 22, 2013 at 1:01 pm

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There’s an old saying that “you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.” That is, people are more likely to do what you want (or at least not do what you don’t want) when you use kind words, rather than cross ones.

Bill Whittle takes two examples –being stopped for speeding by LAPD and his recent experience at  local Chick-fil-A–  to make a larger point about being treated civilly and with respect by the government:

And he’s right, though I think his opening about civility in daily life stands on its own, too. It’s simple common courtesy, the kinds that makes the treadmill of life a bit easier for everyone involved: when you cut through a line, say “pardon me,” don’t just barrel through. When you’re on a cell call in the grocery line and your turn comes at the register, tell the person on the other end you’ll get back to them, hang up, and pay attention to the human in front of you. You don’t have to be fawning ; just treat the other person with a little respect and consideration, and you may be surprised at how much easier and better your day is.

(Crossposted at Public Secrets)

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6 Responses to “(Video) Afterburner: civility”


  1. Drew the Infidel says:

    The current scandal derby is an outgrowth of Obhammud’s arrogant demeanor which not only encourages a culture of corruption but rewards it as well. Who can believe the IRS is set to award $70 million in performance bonuses. For what?!

    A new term has been coined to describe the plethora of scandals currently afoot: “scandalabra”.

    “Chivalry isn’t dead. It is decomposing.”–Rudy Valee from “The Palm Beach Story”(’42)

  2. Brontefan says:

    Personally, I do not see any reason to be unpleasant or disrespectful when pulled over. I have always tried to be courteous and polite. And there are many times a day when others are disrespectful or impolite to me… whether at a Wal-Mart, a fast food restaurant, or at the grocery store. There seems to be a group of people who find it necessary to be unkind and discourteous, and they are not all young people either. The trend today is to only care about yourself. I have let people into traffic in front of me even though the guy behind me is honking his horn in anger and stopped to allow an elderly person time to cross into the parking lot. Once, I was waiting for a parking space and an elderly gentlemen was walking in front of it. I stopped and waited. When I finally pulled into the parking slot, the woman behind me rolled down her window and yelled out “Bitch!” I was in the parking lot of a small grocery store in a small town–about 8,000–and most of the people know, work and shop together.

  3. Some things are tough to explain. Odd things like the car with the bumper sticker reading “Honk If You Love Jesus”, so I did and got flipped off. Or the brainless a*s that cut me off in freeway traffic, almost causing a major pileup. His license plate frame read “Phi Beta Kappa”. Go figure.

  4. Carlos says:

    It’s invasive in culture now because children, from the earliest days of guvmint indoctrination camp, are taught that 1) the correct answer doesn’t matter, and 2) the most important person in the world is one’s self. Nothing else even comes close to those two, as long as one is faithful to the guvmint line.

    The result? Mass murder. Road rage. Occupy Wall Street. Massive voter fraud. 12+ million criminal aliens we’re just about to reward with legality. “Scandalabra.” All because people refuse to be responsible for their own actions.

    BTW, I’ve enjoyed being part of the discussions here, but have been “un”retired again (driving big rigs again) so will at best be an infrequent visitor. Thanks to all for patience for a grumpy old country boy.

  5. Phineas says:

    Good luck and stay safe on the road, Carlos! And try to avoid LA, if you can. ;)

  6. Carlos says:

    Unfortunately, my main travel area is going to be OR/CA, and will include both LA and the Bay area. The Bay area is miserable because if one misses one’s exit, one has to travel another 20 miles to get back.

    LA, with all its traffic problems, is in fact easier for a big rig because other drivers know they won’t win in a tangle, but the stop-and-go can make the driver hours late for an appointed drop, or, conversely, hours early if the traffic tie-up doesn’t materialize. But at least the exits are clearly marked, something we don’t always find elsewhere.

    I’ll try to stop by occasionally. Best of luck, all.