In Islam, a man beats his wife to honor her

Posted by: Phineas on September 25, 2010 at 7:02 pm

Don’t look at me like that. I’m just repeating the words of the honored Egyptian cleric, Sa’d Arafat. Beatings were instituted by Allah to honor wives:

And I just love the look on the interviewer’s face, as if he’s hearing this marvelous revelation: “Oh, I get it! It’s okay for me to beat her if she denies me sex! It’s all so clear now!”

From the transcript:

Sa’d Arafat: Allah honored wives by instating the punishment of beatings.

Interviewer: Honored them with beatings? How is this possible?!

Sa’d Arafat: The prophet Muhammad said: “Don’t beat her in the face, and do not make her ugly.” See how she is honored. If the husband beats his wife, he must not beat her in the face. Even when he beats her, he must not curse her. This is incredible! He beats her in order to discipline her.

In addition, there must not be more than ten beatings, and he must not break her bones, injure her, break her teeth, or poke her in the eye. There is a beating etiquette. If he beats to discipline her, he must not raise his hand high. He must beat her from chest level. All these things honor the woman.

Understand, guys? There are rules to wife-beating. We must observe the proprieties. And just so we’re clear about the “when” part:

Sa’d Arafat: The honoring of the wife in Islam is also evident in the fact that the punishment of beating is permissible in one case only: when she refuses to sleep with him.

Interviewer: When she refuses to sleep with him?

Sa’d Arafat: Yes, because where else could the husband go? He wants her, but she refuses. He should begin with admonishment and threats…

Interviewer: Allow me to repeat this. A man cannot beat his wife…

Interviewer: …over food or drink. Beatings are permitted only in this case, which the husband cannot do without.

Note the logic here: a man must have sex, he cannot go without it. The woman, by refusing him, is denying her husband something he must have and is therefore in need of discipline – a beating. This illustrates something Ayaan Hirsi Ali has repeatedly pointed out in her books: that Islam makes the woman responsible for the sexual behavior of the man. He can’t control himself, so why is she hurting him by withholding something he needs? The same perverse reasoning is used to justify the whole structure of the oppression of women in Islam, from restrictive, dehumanizing dress codes to the punishment of rape victims.

Somehow, I think this is the kind of “honor” women would rather do without.

(Crossposted at Public Secrets)

Sa’d Arafat: Allah honored wives by instating the punishment of beatings.

Interviewer: Honored them with beatings? How is this possible?!

Sa’d Arafat: The prophet Muhammad said: “Don’t beat her in the face, and do not make her ugly.” See how she is honored. If the husband beats his wife, he must not beat her in the face. Even when he beats her, he must not curse her. This is incredible! He beats her in order to discipline her.

In addition, there must not be more than ten beatings, and he must not break her bones, injure her, break her teeth, or poke her in the eye. There is a beating etiquette. If he beats to discipline her, he must not raise his hand high. He must beat her from chest level. All these things honor the woman.

She is in need of discipline. How should the husband discipline her? Through admonishment. If she is not deterred, he should refuse to share the bed with her. If she is not repentant, he should beat her, but there are rules to the beating. It is forbidden to beat her in the face or make her ugly. When you beat her, you must not curse her. Islam forbids this.

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15 Responses to “In Islam, a man beats his wife to honor her”

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  1. Zippy says:

    So is there a rule book of wife beating? How nice that they don’t beat in the face so she will not be ugly. How nice that a woman, another human being, is deemed personal property and is subjected to emotional and physical abuse. Do they have a regulation size rod that is allowed? And what if the man doesn’t follow the regulations? Does someone moniter how the abuse is applied, kind of like a Czar of corporal punishment for wives? There are too many rules here. In Jersey women are allowed to retaliate with a frying pan or baseball bat, I’m fairly certain…

  2. TWoPolitics says:

    Is the man required to wear a regulation wife-beater shirt?

  3. Carlos says:

    Heck, no wonder MO is always looking like she was just beat up!

    And this is the same “religion of piece” (yes, that was intended) that the feminazis/feministas won’t dare disparage in any way because it’s only Christians who wish to subjugate women, and only this “formerly Christian” nation that demands a glass ceiling and obedience only from women.

  4. NC Cop says:

    Yeah, let me tell you, it was an awakening for me when we were over in Iraq and I offered to teach some training in domestic violence to the Iraq police. All the soldiers I worked with started slowly shaking their heads back and forth.

    “What?” I asked.

    “There are no domestic violence laws here. They’re allowed to beat their wives”, a solider said.

    Oh.

  5. It’s astonishing that these people are actually serious. If this was all we knew about Islam, wouldn’t it be all we needed to know? Doesn’t Islam’s behavior toward women alone negate anything that could possibly be construed as being good about it?
    The truth is that there is nothing good about Islam.

  6. Carlos says:

    What you fail to mention, Warren, is that that’s one of the BETTER things about Islam.

    No wonder the feminazis don’t get excited about anything in Islam being just flat-out wrong!

  7. Dennis Bennett says:

    Living on the outskirts of a small town, and worshipping at a Christian church within it, I am always amazed to see
    how its “culture” views common and well-documented news like Islam’s treatment of women. They do not see it as a threat to their way of life because they feel secure in their world. Add to this a component of “God will protect me”, an intellectual and spiritual passiveness develops and disgust is directed at the interviewer for raising his eyebrows! So, a “nice muslim girl”, at the gas station,with no visible marks on her, is seen as a representative “moderate” in order to keep the “culture”. Not all cultures are created equal and not all “religions” want peace.

  8. Jo says:

    So where does that ultimate Bitter Woman and Shrieking Lib, Joy Behar, stand on this???? Let’s hear her and her ilk defend this. Come on, Joy, we’re all waiting to learn how this is acceptable in your twisted, closed mind.

  9. Zippy says:

    I especially liked how he is smiling with love as he explains the specific doctrine of wife beating. Perhaps that’s why the women have to cover their bodies so their bruises and scars don’t show. He looks like he’s lit up just talking about it.

    LOL @ TWoPolitics.

  10. Paul says:

    I wonder if anyone ever smacked Arafat ? :d

  11. Carlos says:

    Paul,

    Ya mean a girlie-man might qualify? California’s full of them! And I understand the bay area is really hot with sado-masochism.

    Kinda like Islam, isn’t it? No wonder SanFranNan is so hot for her leader and cold toward criticism of “that other religion” not “The Word.”

  12. Valerie says:

    Ironically, it sounds like Islamic men can beat their wives for not wanting to sleep with them, BUT, they can’t make any visible injuries – nothing that would require medical care, or be noticed by anyone else. Hmmm, perhaps this is why Islamic woman have to keep themselves completely covered… more area for him to injure, undetected.

    Yeah, “Religion of Peace’ my ass!!

  13. pat says:

    Well, no wonder Pelosi, Clinton, Michelle Obama, etc have demanded equal rights for Muslim women and an end to FGM.//

  14. Carlos says:

    But Pat, each one of the people you named has come out publicly and endorsed muslims using sharia law in their own communities.

    Says a lot about how they really feel about the Constitution, doesn’t it?

  15. Mrs_Bopp says:

    Distressing beyond words. Exasperating! Where does one begin to even try to make those indoctrinated in such a culture to effect change? They are smug & absolutely content in the knowledge that this conduct *honours* women!!! Any protest will be met only by patronising smiles.