When you care enough to …

Posted by: ST on August 20, 2005 at 9:56 am

…. cheat on your spouse. Just when you thought you’d seen everything – Cheating spouse greeting cards:

It is a sentiment guaranteed to melt the coldest heart:

“Just when I thought I would never find my true love — you came along …”

It is a greeting card, decorated with a depiction of purple flowers. Inside:

“My soul has been searching for you since I came into this world.

“All my life I have had this emptiness inside, like a part of me was missing and I was incomplete …

“And now I can’t imagine my life without you … Even if I have to share you.”

Even if I have to share you?

This, clearly, is not a card for the wife — not the sender’s wife, at least.

Pssst: I love you. Don’t tell anyone
In fact, it is specifically for anyone but the wife. Called “My Lover” the card is one of 24 in the Secret Lover Collection, published by a former advertising executive in Bethesda, Md., named Cathy Gallagher. If you are having an extramarital affair, Secret Lover cards can make it an affair to remember


Late afternoon update: Oh, and here’s a site called Philanderers.com. Guess what IT does:

Discreet Extramarital Personal Ads
exclusively for discriminating men
and women seeking an Extramarital Affair

Double ugh.

Hat tip: Betsy Newmark, guestblogging for Michelle Malkin.

Related: La Shawn Barber tells it like it is to the cheaters out there and those who love them knowing they are cheaters.

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    1. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

      Oh, wait…

    2. Jason says:

      Hmmmm! I see these cards leading to disaster. What’s to stop some malicious prankster from sending a card like this to somebody who isn’t having an affair?

    3. – Just what we need…. yet another attack from the shadows of those that are incapable of loyalty and devotion and need desperately to feel “normal”…

      – Then again in the end “players” always get what they deserve – solitude -:shock:

    4. Romeocat says:

      Ewwww, gross!

      Now if I found Darling Husband sending something like this to someone else (or if he found me sending it), there would certainly be hell to pay…

      I am… profoundly disgusted 😯

      — R’cat

    5. Independent says:

      Societal degredation celebrated through greeting cards…hmmm

      Sometimes you hear about something that truly symbolizes the slow death of our civilization. I had always thought we would go out with a bang, but it would seem it may be more of a case of slow suicide. 🙁

    6. Apassionata says:

      Ick. Along with being reprehensible, this is a wretched stack of “bigger than both of us” cliches.

      I hope the creator, Ms. Gallagher (surely not Mrs.), is a genuine hard-eyed cynic. That seems less repugnant than a morally sideways “love conquers all” romantic.

    7. Bachbone says:

      Eureka! We knew primordial slime still existed. Now we know where.

    8. Mike says:

      As someone who was recently cheated on, I feel both a sense of disgust and an almost resigned attitude towards these cards. Both online and offline culture has seen a rise in extramarital affairs with even an Ex-President doing it in the oval office.

      It’s amazing to me to see that arranged marriages have lower rates of divorce and tend to score higher by both partners in level of satisfaction. As I read in one study, the participants basically said that because they had no choice at first, they started off trying to get to know each other and make things work with that person and love that person for who they are. This is in sharp contrast to the comments that were recieved by the more “modern” relationship studies that seemed to be along the lines of having an idea of what their ideal mate is and searching for someone to fit that mold and then spending the rest of their time searching for their partner to fit that perfect vision.

      I’m not about to draw any conclusions or say one way or the other is right, but I have found that in most cases of cheating, and this card exemplifies it, it seems like the cheater is looking/searching for something and instead of trying to find it with their partner, they go elsewhwere. In my own opinion, there are very few things that are quite as bad as this. Not only are they violating the trust and communication that a relationship is based on, but they are making a fool of their partner by sneaking around behind their back with someone else. The cheater is in effect saying you cannot make me as happy as this person can, and instead of being honest with you out of respect and love and maybe coming to a mutual agreement or affecting a change in our relationship. Instead, I am going to make a fool of you and hope I get away with it.

      I have always said that your partner should always be treated with as much respect as you would treat your best friend if not more so. If a person wouldn’t play games with their best friend, I cannot understand what makes them feel it is ok to do it with their partner?

      On top of that, this card is from someone who is involved with someone in a commited relationship. I cannot help but wonder that if this person is willing to cheat on their partner, what makes them think it will be any different with them? More often then not, when a person starts falling for the grass is greener syndrome, all they end up doing is jumping from one person to another, never to find whatever it is they are looking for. All because they are unwilling to stop looking and start enjoying and loving.

    9. Hi all – can’t disagree with anything said in this comments section … Independent, yep – when I first read about this I thought “culture, culture … where have you gone?”

      Mike – makes no sense to me either :(

    10. DazzlinDino says:

      Apparantly, there is a company that will give you that “emergency phone call” when your on a first date. You set up the time of the call, and decide when they phone if the date is worth continueing, if not….presto, you have an excuse…

    11. I’ve heard about that …what will they think of next??