Shock: College hook-up culture brings far more “benefits” for men than women
College Fix associate editorΒ Jennifer Kabbany writes about a New York Times report on the “inequality” of the, um, “quality” of the hook-up culture for college women:
The infamous college campus hook-up cultureΒ celebrated byΒ feminists suggestsΒ female students love casual, no-strings-attached sex, and enjoy one-night standsΒ without guilt, shame or regret.
Oh yeah β then why arenβt they having orgasms when they do?
βResearch involving 600 college studentsΒ β¦ found that women were twice as likely to reach orgasm from intercourse or oral sex in serious relationships as in hookups,β theΒ New York TimesΒ reported Monday. The factoid was couched in a longer article titled βIn Hook-Ups, Inequality Still Reigns.β
βMany young women β¦Β are finding that casual sex does not bring the physical pleasure that men more often experience,βΒ theΒ TimesΒ reports. βNew research suggests why: Women are less likely to have orgasms during uncommitted sexual encounters than in serious relationships. At the same time, researchers say that young women are becoming equal partners in the hookup culture, often just as willing as young men to venture into sexual relationships without emotional ties.β
The article goes on to cite another study which looked at 24,000 students at 21 colleges over five years that found βabout 40 percent of women had an orgasm during their last hookup involving intercourse, while 80 percent of men did.β
TheΒ TimesβΒ report interviewed several people who had all sorts of ideas as to whatβs going wrong in the bedroom, such as that young men donβt care about pleasing a women they see casually, and theΒ twosome doesnβtΒ know each other well enough to know how to get each other off. Predictably, it goes on to quote sources who say sex without orgasms is fine for women seeking to scratch that carnal itch β that βmediocre sexβ is the price women pay for freedom.
But the truth is women engaged inΒ casual sex donβt reach orgasm because β on some level β they know theyβre selling themselves short. Theyβre giving away their ace in the hole, pardon the pun,Β to some guy who barely knows their name and is likely too drunk to remember it in the morning. Theyβre offering themselves to a man who has committed nothing to them, cares nothing for them.
This is “sexual freedom”? No thank you. Give me emotional commitment over a “hook-up” any day. Β It’s a lot more fulfilling and rewarding – and not merely in terms of just the physical aspects. Β Β Young women constantly sell themselves – and their ability to have a nurturing, loving, sustaining, more equal relationship – short in this regard (frankly, men do, too). Β And it hurts their ability to trust in the long run. But it’s what rules in pop culture, it’s the “in” thing to do. Β It’s “rebellious”, it’s a “rite of passage” Β – and for women, it’s the ultimate sign of “non-conformity” against the values their parents tried to instill in them when they were growing up.
Isn’t it far more grown up and, dare I say “rebellious”, Β to resist the temptation to be like everyone else and to NOT do what everyone else is doing? Just askin.’