Regarding the disturbing stories that have recently come out of the woodwork about Harvey Weinstein: I understand for some – many – women across the spectrum – it takes a lot of courage to speak up about sexual harassment/abuse/assault in their respective industries, for various reasons.
Some are reluctant to speak because of concerns about being ostracized/viewed as a pot-stirrer/etc/ or have career worries. Some are concerned for their safety, or worry that they’ll lose the job that helps them feed their families.
I’ve been in professional situations in the past where someone was acting inappropriately and I spoke up regardless of any concerns as to what might be said or done in retaliation. This isn’t me saying “I’m brave” – because I’m really not. It’s just whenever I’ve been in work situations in my lifetime where things were going on that weren’t right – whether it was drinking on the job, treating your colleague like garbage, or sexual harassment, etc – I’ve felt the need to speak up to resolve it, whether i was a witness to it or on the receiving end.
That being said, some of the Hollywood starlets and their progressive feminist allies speaking out about and/or condemning the longtime sexual abuses by men in their industry have been the same ones who routinely lecture/talk down to conservative women on how they “need to stand up” for themselves (as if they don’t already) and stop being “slaves to the patriarchy.” It’s an almost daily critique/badgering of conservative women and their choices in life, and the insinuation is clear: You aren’t a real woman because you make choices that “hurt women” when you “side with men” (as though we can’t think for ourselves).
These same women have essentially called me and others like me insufficient women too weak to stand up to “the man.” While all the while THEY kept quiet about the systemic abuses by men in power they saw going on in their industry, whether it happened to them directly or not. They ignored – in some cases scolded – actor Corey Feldman, who talked about the sexual abuse he and Corey Haim endured as teen actors in Hollywood. They defended sexual predators like Roman Polanski. In the meantime, how many more women were abused and preyed upon?
Does what happened to these men and women make me sick, angry? Absolutely. Should the vile creeps like Weinstein have the book thrown at them? You better believe it. Yet, while these women verbally kicked conservative women in the teeth for supposedly being “subservient” to the patriarchy (an accusation made simply because they believe conservative women can’t think for themselves), they themselves were the ones who wouldn’t stand up to “the man” – “the industry.” And most of them have said they didn’t do it because they didn’t want to risk their careers.
I’ll fight against sexual abuse and harassment every day of the week. But excuse me if I don’t all of a sudden want to become chummy with the Ashley Judds of the world simply due to shared experiences. Maybe when they begin to acknowledge conservative women are equals in this battle, but not before.